Sometimes you feel unloved, and your partner feels confused, because in their mind they’ve been showing love all week.
Often, both people are giving affection. They’re just speaking different languages. In astrology, the way you give and receive love is often linked to your Venus placement, especially its element.
Take this quiz for yourself first, then again for your partner. Choose the answer that fits best and keep track of the letters.
Question 1: After a hard day, what helps you feel most loved?
A. Someone who wants to do something fun to cheer you up.
B. Someone who quietly handles dinner or a chore for you.
C. Someone who lets you talk it all through.
D. Someone who holds you and just knows how you feel.
Question 2: Which gesture means the most to you?
A. A surprise trip or a bold, spontaneous plan.
B. Fixing something that’s been bothering you for weeks.
C. A long message telling you what they appreciate about you.
D. Remembering a small emotional detail you mentioned once.
Question 3: When you love someone, you tend to...
A. Make life exciting for them.
B. Make life easier for them.
C. Make them laugh and keep them company.
D. Make them feel emotionally safe.
Question 4: What would hurt you most in a relationship?
A. Things becoming dull and predictable.
B. Your partner being unreliable.
C. Your partner not talking to you.
D. Your partner being emotionally distant.
Question 5: Your ideal weekend together is...
A. An adventure somewhere new.
B. A comfortable home, a good meal, and nothing urgent.
C. Long conversations, a museum, a game, or a funny film.
D. Quiet, close time with nobody else around.
Your results
Mostly A: Fire love language (often linked to Venus in Aries, Leo, Sagittarius)
You give and receive love through enthusiasm, adventure, generosity, and bold gestures. You feel loved when someone makes an effort to bring excitement into your life.
What you might miss: a partner who shows love quietly may feel invisible to you. Their consistency is love too.
Mostly B: Earth love language (often linked to Venus in Taurus, Virgo, Capricorn)
You give and receive love through practical help, reliability, physical comfort, and showing up. You feel loved when someone makes your life easier.
What you might miss: a partner who shows love through words or emotional depth may feel less grounded to you, but they may be giving just as much.
Mostly C: Air love language (often linked to Venus in Gemini, Libra, Aquarius)
You give and receive love through conversation, shared ideas, humour, and friendship. You feel loved when someone truly listens to you and wants to know what you think.
What you might miss: a partner who shows love through actions may seem distant, when actually they’re simply quiet.
Mostly D: Water love language (often linked to Venus in Cancer, Scorpio, Pisces)
You give and receive love through emotional closeness, intuition, loyalty, and depth. You feel loved when someone understands what you feel without needing to be told.
What you might miss: a partner who shows love practically or playfully may seem less emotionally invested, but they may be caring in the only way they know how.
Now compare
If you and your partner got different results, that’s very common, and it may explain a lot.
Fire and earth often clash over excitement versus stability.
Earth and water often pair well but need to name feelings out loud.
Air and water often misunderstand each other’s need for words versus emotional closeness.
Fire and air often enjoy each other but may forget about quiet, steady care.
Signs your partner is already showing love
Look for:
- Small practical tasks done without being asked.
- Remembering details about your day or your preferences.
- Planning time together, even if it isn’t the kind you’d choose.
- Checking in, even briefly.
- Choosing to stay close during difficult moments.
These are easy to overlook when you’re waiting for love to arrive in your own language.
What to do next
Tell your partner what makes you feel loved, in specific terms. Ask them the same question. Then try speaking their language once this week, even if it doesn’t come naturally.
The quiz is only the starting point. Your full Venus placement, including its house and aspects, plus your Moon sign, gives a much more detailed picture. If you’d like to understand how you and your partner express love, an astrologer on My Astrology Advisor can compare both charts with you by live chat or voice call.