Different person, different city, same outcome. Warm at the start, gradually less available, and you end up doing the work of two people while being told you're overthinking.
The usual advice is that you must be choosing badly. That's not much of an explanation, and it puts the entire weight on you, which is neither fair nor accurate.
Here's a more useful way to look at it.
Check where the pattern begins, not where it ends
Most people examine the point where things went wrong. Look earlier instead.
What were the first three weeks like? Was there intensity that arrived very fast? Was there a moment where you noticed something and decided not to mention it?
Patterns usually declare themselves early and get overwritten by hope.
Ask what unavailability gives you
This sounds harsh and isn't meant to be. If someone is partly unavailable, you never have to find out whether you'd be fully accepted. The relationship stays in a state of pursuit, which is exhausting but also, for some people, familiar enough to feel safe.
Worth asking honestly: is there any part of you that finds full availability uncomfortable?
Notice what you do when someone is consistent
This is the most revealing test in the list. When someone is straightforwardly interested, reliable and clear, what happens?
If the answer is boredom, or a suspicion that something must be wrong with them, the pattern isn't about who you attract. It's about who holds your attention.
Look at the role you take early
Many people who report this pattern take on the same job every time: the understanding one, the patient one, the one who adapts. That role attracts people who need adapting to.
The pattern often breaks when the role does, not when the type of person changes.
Where astrology fits in
It's one lens among several, and it's useful for a specific thing: naming the shape of a pattern. Venus placements relate to what you're drawn to, the Moon relates to what feels emotionally familiar, and the 7th house relates to what you tend to look for in partnership.
None of those determine your outcomes. What they can do is give language to something you've been living inside without being able to describe, which usually makes it easier to interrupt.
And a fair caveat
Sometimes the answer really is bad luck, a small dating pool or a rough stretch. Not every repeated experience is a pattern. But if you can name three, it's worth looking at.
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